March 6

Collars and Sensory Sensitivities: One ADHDers Perspective on Kink


Hello there, fellow kinksters! Today, I want to dive into a topic that’s close to my heart: collars. Specifically, I’ll share how my experience with ADHD and sensory sensitivities has shaped my relationship with this aspect of BDSM. So grab a cup of tea and let’s explore together.

Collars in the BDSM Community: A Personal Journey

Collars hold significant symbolism within the BDSM community, symbolizing commitment, ownership, and connection. However, for me, they represent something entirely different. Let me explain.

Entrepreneurial Ventures and Collar Making

As an entrepreneur and a kink enthusiast, I once delved into the world of collar making. Crafting high-quality collars on Etsy was both fulfilling and financially rewarding. However, despite my success in this venture, I gradually realized that collars didn’t hold the same significance for me as they did for others in the community.

The Impact of Sensory Sensitivities

Living with ADHD, I’ve become acutely aware of my sensory sensitivities, particularly when it comes to touch. While I admire the symbolism behind collars, wearing them triggers discomfort and distraction due to the sensation on my neck. This sensitivity extends to most jewelry, including bracelets and necklaces, making them impractical for me.

Personal Reflections on Kink and Connection

Through introspection, I discovered that my desire for collars stemmed from a longing for connection rather than the physical object itself. Recognizing this distinction allowed me to communicate my needs effectively and seek partners who understood and respected my boundaries.

Embracing Individuality in the Kink Community

It’s essential to recognize that everyone’s journey in the BDSM community is unique. What holds great significance for one person may not resonate with another, and that’s perfectly okay. Diversity enriches our community, allowing us to celebrate our differences while fostering understanding and acceptance.

Moving Forward with Authenticity

While collars may not play a significant role in my kink journey, I still appreciate their beauty and symbolism. Occasionally, I’ll adorn a blue leather collar for videos or social events, signaling my affinity for kink to like-minded individuals. However, I do so with mindfulness, acknowledging my sensory needs and prioritizing my comfort.

Final Thoughts

In sharing my experience with collars and sensory sensitivities, I hope to validate others who may navigate similar challenges within the BDSM community. Remember, your journey is valid, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to kink. Embrace your individuality, communicate your needs, and celebrate the diverse tapestry of experiences within our community. Until next time, kinky besties!


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